Ep. 058 – From Codependence to Christ-Dependence: Marriage, Parts, Attachment, and the Physics of Trust | Part 10
Marriage isn’t just two people in love.
It’s two nervous systems, two histories, two attachment patterns, and two sets of wounded and protective parts trying to feel safe.In this powerful episode, Dr. Barbara Jean Lowe Sauvé takes parts-work out of the therapy room and into the sacred space of marriage—integrating attachment science, neuroscience, Gottman research, physics, and Scripture to show why conflict repeats, why codependency forms, and how Christ restores secure attachment.
You’ll learn why:
- Most marital conflict is perpetual (and why that’s actually hopeful)
- Codependency is often the attempt to regulate someone else’s nervous system
- Attachment panic—not immaturity—drives many marital fights
- Flooding shuts down logic, empathy, and repair
- Marriage was never meant to replace God as our primary attachment figure.
And most importantly—you’ll learn how Jesus heals attachment wounds and re-anchors marriage in peace, not panic.
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